RoCkie Bojan @ blogspot: August 2006

What's the difference between a nerd, a geek, and a dork?

From Yahoo!

We've been called all three, and to be honest, we always assumed they meant the same thing. However, according to the cool kids, there are differences.
Official definitions for nerd, geek, and dork each use the words "inept" and "foolish." Nerds have the added distinction of being "unattractive." Ouch. While it's hard to argue with the dictionary, we sought out definitions from the Internet at large.

According to Whatis.com, nerds are people of above-average intelligence who place little importance on their appearance. Nerds are often aware of their status, but they don't mind. In fact, many take pride in the putdown, as it means they're smart and not wrapped up in superficial worries.

Geek is a more specific term. Back in the day, geeks worked at carnivals, and (according to the dictionary) "bit the heads off live chickens." Thankfully, the term now has a different connotation. Like nerds, geeks are smart, but they tend to focus more on technology. As Urban Dictionary explains, these are the people you make fun of in high school and later work for as an adult.

Being called a "dork" is the biggest insult of the three. There's no way you can spin it into something positive. After all, even the dictionary writes that dorks are "stupid" people. And to make matters worse, dorks assume they're cool. Oh, and they smell, too.

So, to sum things up, if someone calls you a geek or a nerd, thank them. If someone calls you a dork, consider going back to school and investing in some new deodorant.

what about me? I'm not smart or have the above-average intelligence like the nerds do... I'm not a pro with the new gadgets, technology etc out there... may be i'm just a dork.... or simply creep or... weirdo...

What guys should have done when girls are having problem or crisis!!!

Julie Taylor is a writer and editor in Los Angeles, CA, who contributes frequently to Redbook, Cosmopolitan and other national magazines. Below is an article which tells the guys what they can do when the girl in facing any sort of problem in their life.

Damn... "I should have know all these long ago!" I say to myself...

When the woman you’re seeing is going through a difficult time — she just got laid off, her beloved dog died — you want to be there for her... right? Right. But what does being there mean, exactly? Is it offering a shoulder to cry on? Giving her advice? Taking her mind off her problems? Turns out it just might be a combination of all of the above. Sure, knowing how to act or what to say can be confusing—after all, women generally handle stress much differently than men. So to help you out, here are the tools you’ll need to help her through a tough time. Use them correctly and this experience can help you move from “seeing each other” to “real relationship” status.

Listen
Simply listening to her problems can be the best gift you can give her, according to Susan M. Axtell, Psy.D, a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Beverly Hills, CA. “Make her feel heard and understood,” she advises. “Women need someone to listen to them. They need to vent about a situation and talk it through because they don’t want to keep their pain inside. Throughout history, women have been socialized to emotionally connect with others when times get tough.” Axtell recommends active listening, where you reflect back what you’re hearing. For instance, if she says, “I’m so disappointed in my sister for acting like that,” you could say, “I totally understand your disappointment; I’m really surprised by her behavior, too.” This shows her that you’re hearing what she’s saying and that you’re validating her feelings. “Then put on your empathy hat and say it’s natural for her to react this way,” Dr. Axtell advises. She wants you to assure her that she’s not crazy for feeling angry, upset, confused, disappointed, or whatever.

Be her cheerleader
When Lori Miller, 26, of Austin, TX found out her mother was diagnosed with a terminal illness, she was devastated. “I literally felt like I wanted to die, too,” she recalls. “I felt like there was no way I could get through this. But my guy was the one who picked me up and convinced me that I could survive.” When crisis hits, women’s insecurities often overwhelm them. Many times, their knee-jerk reaction is to think, “I can’t do this.” It’s your job to convince her she can. “Tell her that she can handle this—then help her think of two or three other specific times that she’s survived difficult situations,” says communications expert Laurie Puhn, J.D., author of Instant Persuasion: How to Change Your Words to Change Your Life. These reminders will empower her and boost her confidence.

Don’t try to fix everything
“Guys generally like to fix situations,” says Dr. Axtell, “and when they can’t, they get frustrated.” But she says it’s important — make that imperative — to give yourself an attitude adjustment. “Women don’t need things fixed the way men do. She’s not looking for you to repair what’s wrong—she’s just looking for you to be there for her,” Axtell says. Many times, women need to scream, wallow, cry, or do whatever it takes to process their emotions. Only then will they be able to develop a plan of action or plot their next move. That’s when it’s time to offer help—without telling her what to do. “Say, ‘What can I do to help you?’” advises Puhn. Then listen and follow her cues. What if she says there’s nothing you can do? Puhn suggests asking, “Would you like my suggestions on some things you can try?” To avoid adopting a know-it-all attitude, you can preface your advice with: “This is something that worked for me when I was in a similar situation.”

Help her maintain perspective
When women are stuck in the middle of an ordeal, they can feel like it’s the end of the world. Men are usually more apt to look at the big picture—which is why it’s your job to give her a reality check. “If she missed a big deadline at work and is convinced she’s going to get fired,” Puhn says, “tell her that other people have been in this situation and have escaped unscathed. Give specific examples.” You don’t want to dismiss her problems or appear unsympathetic—you simply want her to see that she will survive this, no matter how bad it gets. That’s what Joseph Franklin, 38, of Tulsa, OK, did when his girlfriend was audited by the IRS: “She was going into total panic mode, so I started listing the people we knew who had been audited and had lived to tell the tale,” he recalls. “We even called a buddy of mine who was audited last year and had actually gotten a refund from the IRS in the end.” Real-world examples like this will remind her that she can indeed weather the storm.

Take her mind off it
When Jamie Horne, 35, of La Crescenta, CA, lost her mother to cancer, her boyfriend was a pro at helping take her mind off her grief. “He would pick me up at work and take me to Disneyland for no reason,” she recalls. “Or he’d bring over some bad 80s movies and popcorn and tell me we were having a movie night.” Pampering and distracting her helps because it shows that someone’s taking care of her needs. Because women are conditioned to be caretakers, it feels wonderful when someone takes care of them for a change. So massage her shoulders. Take her out for Thai food. Buy season one of her favorite show on DVD and watch six episodes straight. Just remember: While it’s fine to distract her from her problems, you should never ignore them. “Taking her mind off her troubles for a little while is an appreciated break,” Dr. Axtell explains, “but if you ignore her problems or get down on her for talking about them, it will seem like you’re avoiding them altogether—which isn’t helpful at all. “

Curb the criticism
Guys are raised to be protectors and solve problems, says Dr. Axtell. Women have a different way of dealing with a crisis, so don’t get bent out of shape if she doesn’t follow your advice. Just because she deals in a different way than you might have, doesn’t mean that you issued bad advice or that she doesn’t respect your opinion. It just means that she followed her own heart—which is never a bad thing. Simply be supportive of her decisions and resist the urge to tell her what she “shoulda/coulda/woulda” done instead. She handled her crisis the way she needed to—all the while drawing strength and courage from the fact that you were by her side. And once you’ve survived this tough time together, the good times ahead, as your relationship blooms, will be even sweeter.

My Football Legend - Roberto Baggio

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Let me show you my football world... Roberto Baggio, a.k.a Roby Baggio; My football hero, GOD!

Congrates to ITALIA - FIFA World Cup Champion 2006

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Music and song by U2 - One.

Glorious moments from the Azzurri!

Perfect - Smashing Pumpkins

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Artist: Smashing Pumpkins
Album: Adore
Title: Perfect

I know we're just like old friends
we just can't pretend
that lovers make amends
we are reasons so unreal
we can't help but feel that something has been lost
but please you know you're just like me
next time I promise we'll be
perfect
perfect
perfect strangers down the line
lovers out of time
memories unwind

so far I still know who you are
but now I wonder who I was...
angel, you know it's not the end
we'll always be good friends
the letters have been sent on

so please, you always were so free
you'll see, I promise we'll be
perfect
perfect strangers when we meet
strangers on the street
lovers while we meet

perfect
you know this has to be
we always we're so free
we promised that we'd be
perfect

Wish You Were Here - Pink Floyd

Artist: Pink Floyd
Album: Wish You Were Here
Title: Wish You Were Here

So, so you think you can tell Heaven from Hell, blue skies from pain.
Can you tell a green field from a cold steel rail? A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?

And did they get you to trade your heroes for ghosts? Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze? Cold comfort for change?

And did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage?

How I wish, how I wish you were here.
We're just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl, year after year,
Running over the same old ground. What have you found? The same old fears.
Wish you were here.

Crestfallen...

Artist: Smashing Pumpkins
Album: Adore
Title: Crestfallen

who am I to need you when I'm down
where are you when I need you around
your life is not your own
and all I ask you
is for another chance
another way around you
to live by circumstance, once again

who am I to need you now
to ask you why to tell you no
to deserve your love and sympathy
you were never meant to belong to me

and you may go, but I know you won't leave
too many years built into memories
your life is not your own

who am I to need you now
to ask you why to tell you no
to deserve your love and sympathy
you were never meant to belong to me

who am I to you?
along the way
I lost my faith

and as you were, you'll be again
to mold like clay, to break like dirt
to tear me up in your sympathy
you were never meant to belong to me
you were never meant to belong to me
you were never meant to belong to me

who am I?

Crazy - Aerosmith

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Artist: Aerosmith
Album: Big Ones
Title: Crazy

Come 'ere baby
You know you drive me up the wall
the way you make good on all the nasty tricks you pull
Seems like we're makin' up more than we're makin' love
And it always seems you got somthin' on your mind other than me
Girl, you got to change your crazy ways
You hear me
Say you're leavin on a seven thirty train
and that you're headin' out to Hollywood
Girl you been givin me the line so many times
it kinda gets like feelin bad looks good
That kinda lovin'
Turns a man to a slave
That kinda lovin'
Sends a man right to his grave
chorus
I go crazy, crazy, baby, I go crazy
You turn it on
Then you're gone
Yeah you drive me
Crazy, crazy, crazy for you baby

What can I do, honey
I feel like the color blue. . .
You're packin up your stuff and talkin like it's tough
and tryin to tell me that it's time to go
But I know you ain't wearin' nothin' underneath that overcoat
And it's all a show
That kinda lovin'
Makes me wanna pull
Down the shade, yeah
That kinda lovin'
Yeah, now I'm never gonna be the same
chorus
I'm losin my mind, girl
'Cause I'm goin' crazy
I need your love, honey
I need your love
Crazy, crazy, crazy for you baby
I'm losin my mind, girl
'Cause I'm goin' crazy
Crazy, crazy, crazy for you baby
You turn it on, then you're gone
Yeah you drive me